Surviving Valentines Day Pressure
Single Scene Column© February 2015
by Kelly Leary, M.S., Founder of Revolution Dating
I hope all of you are enjoying the new year…and sticking to your resolutions! If you’ve lost your momentum, I urge you to revisit your dreams and recommit! Remember “Quitters never win and winners never quit!”
Since you are a fan of this column, I’m betting that relationships were at the core of your resolutions. Research shows that relationships are the second most common resolution topic nationally behind health. Coincidentally, Relationships are good for your health too, hence all this “LOVE BUSINESS” is even more important then we once thought!
As all know, Valentine’s Day can be an anxiety-provoking holiday for men and women everywhere! Single or not, expectations for this day run even HOTTER than New Year’s Eve! To get you through it, here are some tips to make this February better than ever!
1. Be O.K. with your relationship status.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t have, think about what you DO have! Concentrate on your good qualities and what is awesome about YOUR life, without a relationship. My research shows that good catches are O.K. on their own, but they prefer romance “with the right person”. A good catch has high self-esteem and is attractive, like you. Likewise, you are not going to date just anyone. This shows you have confidence and you believe in yourself. It would be easy to sequester a mate if you had zero standards! Know that your future romance is coming soon because you are ready and you know what you need to do next. Maybe you were not ready until now? I.e. I see romance in your future!
2. Set Dating Goals Today.
This is an easy step that you can make happen immediately, and you will love how empowering this feels! Make one phone call today to a popular friend, spiritual leader, or even a Revolution Dating matchmaker! Tell them you are looking to meet some new faces this year! Most importantly–follow through!
Do ONE thing today that will push you out of your comfort zone. This is easy and anyone can do it. You may not have the time to drum up a serious relationship by Valentines Day, but you will notice a weight lifted and a sense of control because you are making a true effort to upgrade your social-love life. Your perfect match is not going to show up at your doorstep! You have to take action. Light a fire this month…this is a great time to begin your search. New year: new love. Time for a Love Movement!
3. Think Positively.
It’s easy to get down when you see X’s and O’s and hearts and love everywhere. Have no fear, it only means that you have a heart! Instead of focusing on lack, think about the type of relationship you would like to have for your future. Visualize your ideal man or woman, and think about how happy you’ll be when that person comes into your life. Make your list of five must haves you want in your dream mate. I love the power of positivity! It works!
Keep your eyes on the prize and it will happen! Let the universe know what you want to happen. Your soul mate may not materialize instantly, but every time someone walks through the red doors of Revolution Dating, they are saying to the world, “I am here because I deserve better than what I am finding online or in any bar! I’m here because I am improving my odds!” The universe then, will react and with the help of my arrow, your dreams shall come true. Some of our clients find love sooner than others, but the odds are increased immediately. Your stock will go the moment you walk in our office! It’s not what you know, its who you know…and timing is everything!
To make it even easier for you, Revolution Dating conveniently set the February “Meet Your Sweetheart” event for 2/26! By reserving your spot today, you will feel ten times happier when Valentines Day arrives! Shine on friends!!! You have much to look forward to as 2015 is going to be a GREAT year!!! With our help, your love life is guaranteed to be revolutionized!
#BeRevolutionary #TheTimeIsNow #MeetYourSweetheartThisMonth
Kelly Leary© has 23 years in the dating industry and a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She has been profiled by ABC News, The Palm Beach Post and other publications. All Revolution Dating members are prescreened first, including background checks. Professional member photos are taken by the staff. Revolution Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single” through their exclusive membership, Kelly also holds private singles events. For more information, please call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or 772-932-HERE (4373).