Educated Matchmakers Tell All

Kelly Leary, M.S. & Miranda Capparelli

“Nothing ever is, but all things are becoming. All things are the offspring of flux and motion.”~~Socrates

Dating in 2024 is not like it was five, ten, or thirty years ago. Times have changed–and it’s evident on the dating circuit. New clients coming off of the online dating scene or coping with the loss of a spouse are experiencing massive shock and fright of what it is like “out there.” People have lost their patience and/or have become set in their ways. Single or Taken, we live in an On-Demand Society and Instant Gratification Culture. Single people would benefit from becoming matched with a supportive partner because they are getting the brunt of our Doubting Thomas Era. Singles carry the weight of life alone and that is not fun nor healthy.

This Matchmaking Team is on a hyper-focused mission to cure the dating dilemma that is hurting people–in their wallets and hearts. We want you to connect–without fear of being used or hurt. We want you to share your life with someone you love, like our happy clients and couples. With that, people need Matchmaking Connections. Virtual connections are not real. Demand for our insight and attention is up and rising. As always, do share this column with your single friends and family if you are half of a couple.

Hope floats, friends! More than half of our new clients come in by word of mouth and we do dominate the market. This is a message of love from our office to your hearts. Thank you for spending your time with us today. (CAUTION: The following points are based on scientific observation and studied for accuracy. Follow through and you just may fall in love.)

1. Self-Awareness: The paramount deficit in dating is a lack of self-awareness.  Know who you are and know the league you are in. I.E. If you want a Brad Pitt, make sure you are the same caliber as Angelina Jolie.
2. More Honey–Less Vinegar:  Approaching every interaction with a positive attitude creates space for growth, fulfillment, and understanding. We enjoy the saying “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar”. Keep your words sweet because you might have to eat them one day. When you wake up in the morning, choose to live the new day as another opportunity to get it right.
3. The Power of First Impressions: The importance of first impressions cannot be overlooked or dismissed. Initial judgments of others are formed within 60 seconds of meeting and often subconsciously. Dress to impress. When you dress nice, you set the tone of inherent confidence because when you look better, you feel better. The way you show up on a date is the way you show up in life. Don’t ride on the Popeye Excuse–“I am what I am. Love me or leave me.” First impressions are formed by nonverbal cues, including but not limited to body language and facial expressions.
4. Speak Love: Research conducted by the University of North Carolina demonstrates that acts of love and kindness stimulate the release of oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone.” Creating an atmosphere of love and positivity in interactions creates a ripple effect, enhancing connections with those around you. The energy of love is contagious as is the energy of contention. What’s your energy saying?
5. Relationship Investment: Successful relationships require a significant investment of time, money, and emotion. Dating someone who can’t nail down a date, constantly reschedules, or doesn’t provide at least an hour and a half of their time for a date will not be successful. Investing in the relationship signals commitment and dedication, which gains mutual trust and potential for bonding. If you don’t want to invest, you may want to opt out of dating.
6. Viral Overthinking: The pandemic may be long over, but there is a new virus taking over the world called “Over-analysis.” Overthinking can have an adverse effect on finding a partner. Be open-minded on your first date. When you join our club, know that you can feel reassured because of our comprehensive vetting process.
7. Believe in Yourself: Even though life has given you some speed bumps, know that you are still extraordinary. Psychologists emphasize the importance of cultivating self-belief through positive affirmations. Believing in oneself enhances personal well-being and attracts like-minded individuals who value self-esteem and authenticity. Stuart Smalley of Saturday Night Live, circa 1970-1980, would repeat phrases like: “I am good enough. I am smart enough and dog gone it, people like me.” If you don’t feel this way, you are may not be ready.
8. Just Say YES: While NIKE says “Just Do It” we say “Just Say YES.” First of all, saying “NO” as your go-to reply is simply unattractive. Try a new way of life this Spring. Make a change. What is worst that can happen? Our clients trust us because we build an in-person personal relationship with them. They value our insight.
9. Physical Wellness: This does not mean you have to be a “TEN.” Physical activity enhances self-confidence (regardless of your waistline). Just get moving from a walk to a yoga class to a twenty-minute workout video on YouTube. Regular physical movement (even minutes a day on a regular basis) will improve your health and mood naturally. Investing in yourself will make you more attractive to potential suitors. The message is: “I care about myself.”
10. Dogmatism: It’s a THING. Our clients have high standards and preferences, but maintaining an open-minded approach will facilitate increased dates, compatibility, and connections. Rigid prejudgements can and will terminate the process and formation of meaningful relationships. The open-minded client will trump the closed “know-it-all” client every day.

This year marks our TENTH ANNIVERSARY of Revolution Dating. We invite you to join us in spreading love and positivity. Let’s embark on this new April Adventure together, celebrating the highs and learning from the lows. Your happiness is our ultimate goal, and we are dedicated to helping you find lasting love too. Are you?

Enrollments are hot and the temperature is rising. Don’t miss out on a Spring Fling that can last a Lifetime. Your future soulmate is waiting for you to sign up! Reserve your spot in the club today and—remember—we have clients up and down the coast all the way to the TriState/Northeastern areas. If you are leaving soon, we can still help you over the summer.

We are excited to hear more about you!

XOXO, Kelly & Miranda

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Revolution Dating Founder and CEO, Kelly Leary, has 33 years in the dating industry and a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology. She has also been written about in The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, Stuart News, Modern Luxury Palm Beach, and Modern Luxury Manhattan plus many more. Revolution Dating members are pre-screened in person including background checks. Professional photos are taken by the staff. Revolution Dating is NOT online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single” through their exclusive club memberships, Kelly and her team also provide feedback from your dates when appropriate. Mock Dates are available by request. Single Coaching Sessions and Evaluations are also available by request for non-members or as an add-on to some memberships. *All inquiries are confidential. *By demand, we now have a TriState area Hub for our many Northeast clients with two or more homes. Do call the main hotline for more information 561-630-XOXO (9696) or register on our website at Revolution Dating :: Home of THE Award-Winning Matchmaker . This is a First Come/First Serve Model, so get your name on the A-List today.