By: Kelly Leary, M.S., CEO/Matchmaker
“You’re so vain. I bet you think this song is about you.”— Carly Simon
Happy New Year Everyone! Isn’t it remarkable how quickly time flies with each passing year? Tis’ another golden opportunity to get it right! I hope everyone is setting up their vision boards and manifesting an ideal and dreamy year ahead. January is the BEST month on the calendar to make changes. Hold your ground this year. Don’t let the time slip away from you–just don’t. You will thank me later for this gentle nudge. For those of you that are single and frustrated, know that the Florida market is booming–and I’m not talking about Real Estate.
There is a Singles Tsunami going on right before our eyes~~and it has been going on for months. Thousands of singles have moved to our local area in the last couple of years, former dynamic duos have broken up, and countless others have given up on online dating for good. ONLINE DATING took an even bigger nose dive in the last three years. It is more absurd than ever before. It is Babylon meets the Wild West of dating and it is destroying norms and the modern dating culture in multiple ways. Men and women are not enjoying the transition and loss of general dating decorum. THIS is why matchmaking has become so popular.
MATCHMAKING has become more attractive to quality singles as a traditional approach to expanding your social circle wisely. Consider these basic facts as you move towards your decision to hire a matchmaker. Would you prefer a matchmaker who is LOCALLY established? Does your matchmaker have an ACTUAL OFFICE or does she want to meet you out in public? Would a REAL matchmaker seek to enroll you on a zoom or a phone call? Doesn’t that miss the point? We meet all of our clients in our office in-person. Our private practice is centrally located to all of you (NOT out of state) right on PGA BOULEVARD. We have been here for ten amazing years and counting and we could not be happier. We have much more love to share too–in the coming year. We continue to learn and grow and change, for ourselves and for you. It is an honor to serve all of you, sincerely.
With that thoughtful note, join me as I entertain the concept of comparing the current singles market to the real estate market. Multiple risks abound in 2023 for a buyer (aka: dater). The stakes are high. Enjoy my fun comparison below and let me know what you think!
TYPES OF SINGLES ON THE MARKET:
The Short Sale: Typically, a disgruntled person that does not want to be single. They didn’t choose this label per se, and they are mad at the world. There is some hope with healthy therapy or a time-out to rebuild thy soul.
The Foreclosure: This is a man or woman you want to stay away from at all costs. This person is likely damaged or destroyed, sadly. They really should not be dating as they are in some kind of crisis. They are likely in shambles–from financial to emotional or physical destruction. This is the saddest type of single to encounter. They need so much work–but it’s not your job to renovate. This will take a long commitment on the buyer’s part to rebuild. The question remains: Is it worth it?
The Renter: This person is just not secure for a reason. They may be new to the area (which is okay, as long as they are rooting down in some way here in Florida). How long is the lease? What are their intentions? Are they financially sound or amidst a financial setback? Why do they rent? Find out before you proceed, without judgment. If you have concerns, just ask me what I think.
Lives with Family: What is their age? Occupation? Cultural position? Why do they live with family? Is it a home with an east wing? Or the basement?
Lives with a Roommate: What is their age? Why? How? Who? What? When? Have fun exploring this topic as some have valid reasons and remain age appropriate while others are not. I come right out and ask this in my interviews, but if you do it you will look intrusive. Only the matchmaker can this type of question.
New Construction: Usually upscale, up-to-date, and financially FIT. This person knows what they want and is customizing it to suit their needs. They may be demanding and uncompromising. They may be rigid in and out of the bedroom. They may be worth it though! I would not rule this out.
Old Construction: Worth the wait. Look for a solid foundation. Choose cement over wood. Look for good lines and structure. Don’t be fooled by an attractive outward appearance and forgo the inspection! Get a second and third opinion and listen to your gut. Seek out the opinion of a true friend when in doubt.
Waterfront vs. Western Lifestyle: This is a matter of preference. Do you prefer the mountains or the ocean? You can also have the best of both worlds too–if you date smart! Wouldn’t it be nice to have a partner with a home in two zip codes?
This is a tough market and let’s face it, when you date you are selling yourself. Hopefully, you don’t have to try too hard. Don’t over sell. Believe in yourself. Move with care and kindness at your center and you will never lose.
Welcome to the dating boom in Florida–offline-in REAL LIFE! The future is bright.
Thank you for sharing your time with me again today. Thank you to my publisher for noticing my talent (as a matchmaker and writer) so many years ago. This paper is about sharing good news with our readers in our communities. Do tell your friends. Keep it simple, folks. We all need something FUN to talk about and something to look forward to in 2023. Together–anything is possible.
Our hotlines do blow up in January, so call soon to beat the rush! We can’t wait to here your story!
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Kelly Leary© has 33 years in the dating industry and a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She’s been profiled by The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, Stuart News, The Sun Sentinel, Vero Beach 32963 and many more over the years. Revolution Dating members are pre-screened including background checks. Professional photos are taken by the staff. Revolution Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single” through their exclusive club membership, Kelly and her team also provide feedback from your dates when appropriate. Call 561-630-XOXO (9696) or 772-932-HERE (4373) for a LIVE chat with a matchmaker. You may also visit us at www.revolutiondating.com. *All inquiries are confidential.