By: Kelly Leary, M.S., CEO & Head Matchmaker
Back to school means back to the the dating pool! Half of our clients are single parents of school-age children or college-age children, so typically August is all about our kids, right? So NOW is the time to get back to you as they go back to school. As the “School Principle” of Matchmaking, I have provided you with my “Proprietary Dating Success Guide” to help you become the star dater we know you can be. Confidence in what you have learned from us will be the key to your success, but note, what you receive from this homework assignment will be in direct correlation with the work you put into it (just like the advice we give to our children). Not a single one of our matchmakers wants to see our students (clients) fail. Straight A’s are a green flag for your future dating success, so let’s make your report card a picture on your fridge of you and your special someone.
School is in Session:
Lesson 1. Study Our Proprietary Dating Success Guide
☎️ 1.Make that Date Right Away! Once made, be on time, and don’t cancel or reschedule. This is not a good way to start a first date. You just met, and you don’t want to start your date with an apology.
👗 2. Your Appearance is Important. Dress to impress — for your first date especially — it’s far better to be overdressed rather than underdressed. Remember we are putting our best foot forward here. Moreover, make sure your inner glow shines too!
😍 3. Practice Kindness. The biggest turnoff is a person who walks into a date, room, or party – with a negative attitude. It is imperative that we all practice kindness in life, love, work, and play – single or not. Speak positive words.
🤔 4. Play It Cool. Don’t go overboard on the compliments, it’s hard to be attracted to a person who is practically drooling over you. Perhaps that seems strange, and in a way it is flattering, but it makes you come across as too pushy.
🤳 5. While on the Date: No Texting. No exceptions. Leave your phone in the car if you can.
😳 6. Be Real. Put your best foot forward. A first date is about being pure and authentic. No “over-the-top” jewelry or makeup. No dirty jokes. Mind your manners and be nice to the wait staff! Be polite to those around you and speak highly of life whenever possible…especially on a first date. Don’t take over the conversation. There will be time to share your story but wait for now.
👂🏼7. Ask Questions on Your Date. Listen too! What’s your date’s favorite topic of conversation? We all love to feel important and interesting. If you can make your date feel these things, chances are he/she will be more attracted to you. It’s human nature. How can you not like someone interested in what you have to say?
🥳 8. Let Your Date Know You’re Having a Good Time! If you’re having a good time, let it show. Smile. Laugh. A well-placed, “I’m having a great time” is good. We all want to be with people that we can make happy. Let him/her know, and thank them for it too. This eliminates guessing games!
🥰 9. Be Passionate. When your date asks you about yourself be passionate about the information you choose to share. Be decisive in your answers and don’t wallow back and forth. However, avoid talking too much about yourself, and don’t bring up past relationships…for as long as humanly possible.
😜 10. Keep It Light and Be Positive. Please eliminate ALL talk of medical conditions, politics, religious ideas, and past relationships. Talk about your travels, hobbies, favorite books, or ANYTHING ELSE THAT IS LIGHT AND FUN. Don’t be so serious; very few people want to sit through a detailed explanation of your difficulties.
👔 11. Conduct Yourself With Dignity. When you find yourself attracted to a person, sometimes you can get carried away. If you want to talk for six hours, go for it if the other person is amenable and on your wavelength. If you want to share another bottle of wine do it… but otherwise…be aware that a first date is “a thing”. This is a time to be the best version of you. Don’t screw it up. Bring your A-Game.
🚫 12. Watch What You Say in Cyberspace. You’d be surprised how transparent social media is. So if you decided to document your date on Facebook, it can be pretty easy for your date to find that post. Most importantly, this person may not want to be with someone who posts every thought on social media. Privacy is hot.
XOXO, Your Kelly-Girl
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Kelly Leary© has 32 years in the dating industry and a Master’s Degree in Psychology. She has been profiled by Modern Luxury Magazine this month as a Dynamic Business Woman. Look for it on the shelves. She has also been written about in The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, Stuart News, and many more. Revolution Dating members are pre-screened in person including background checks. Professional photos are taken by the staff. Revolution Dating is NOT online dating or blind dating. In addition to providing matchmaking services that make singles “UN-single” through their exclusive club memberships, Kelly and her team also provide feedback from your dates when appropriate. Mock Dates are available by request. Single Coaching Sessions and Evaluations are also available by request for non-members or as an add-on to some memberships. *All inquiries are confidential.